GRIEVING
Unfolding and embracing grief, has been my greatest teacher in the last year
(not sure I would have asked for it neither as the pain can be unbearable and will walk with me for a long time)
What a humbling journey taking one day at the time, i walk
In the Lakota/Sioux tradition, « a person who is grieving is considered most wakan, most holy. »
I understand why now
There’s a sense that when someone is struck by the sudden lightning of loss, he or she stands on the threshold of the spirit world
You might recall what it’s like to be with someone
who has grieved deeply
The person has no layer of protection, nothing left to defend
The mystery is looking out through that person’s eyes
For the time being, he or she has accepted the reality of loss and has stopped clinging to the past or grasping at the future
When some people can see a person grieving « abandoning »life or seem uninterested anymore, it’s correct, the desillusion is so huge, it brings this person on an other dimension:
The here and the now. The » I », we all are. Grieving bounds us to Eternity
In the groundless openness of sorrow, there is
a wholeness of presence and a deep natural
wisdom
Grieving is really the hardest work I had to do and still am doiing. It’s accepting to see parts of ourselves leaving. « From ashes to ashes »
We believe we loose people, situations or things, when actually we just have lost parts of ourselves and need to continue on a different path, being an « us » in a different life equation. Death is hard for the people who observe and feel the losses, wondering how can such pain even exist or even wonder if living is still worth the shot.
The emptiness and the memories can fill our hearts of sorrow and paradoxally lead to the most infinite LOVE & gratitude never ever felt before. We can also die in the process or we can use it to create something new, & yes, make us believers.
Yet grieving, as a recall of human existence, bonds us to all other humans in the strongest way I have ever experienced into my life
« When my heart is weeping, I hear the hearts of the entire world weeping »
